Discussing care options with your loved one

Discussing care options with your loved one

When someone has spent a lifetime being independent and caring for others, they may not be open to the idea of depending on someone else for care. They may be concerned about the costs or worried that it would limit their lifestyle, forcing them to conform to someone else’s routine. All of this may be making them hesitant to look for care options. If this is the case, now is the time to take action.

How to discuss care

No one wants to be dependent on other people for help – but at the same time, elderly care services help many people get on with daily life and can significantly improve their well-being. By having an open, honest conversation about different care options, you can come to a solution that suits everyone.

Here are five tips on how to discuss healthcare services with someone who needs it, or is likely to need it in the future.

  1. Talk about care sooner rather than later. Don’t leave the discussion for a later time, when severe disability or illness might make it more difficult. Talking sooner is particularly important if your loved one has dementia or if their health is rapidly declining. Finding the right care option and making arrangements for funding will take time, so don’t put it off.
  2. Plan the conversation. You may want other people present, such as relatives or friends. You can write down your thoughts beforehand, or print out details about different types of care. It may also be helpful to meet with a medical professional who can offer input on what benefits care can bring. As healthcare professionals, we can discuss with you the benefits of care.
  3. Listen to their concerns. Your loved one’s thoughts and opinions are important and should be taken into account at all times. Ask them if there’s anything specific they want help with – you may be underestimating the daily problems they face. Don’t dismiss any of the issues your loved one brings up, even if you think mental health issues like dementia may impair their judgement.
  4. Offer solutions. For example, if your loved one doesn’t want to go into a residential care home, suggest home care instead. If they need 24/7 assistance but want to stay in their own home, you can recommend live-in care. If they’re worried about costs, offer to arrange a care needs assessment by your local council.
  5. Try not to force the conversation. Everyone has bad days, and your loved one may feel ‘cornered’ or overwhelmed if they feel pressured into a conversation they’re not ready for. It’s important to understand and respect these ‘bad’ days, but do not let them deter you from having the conversation: look to talk another time when they are feeling better, perhaps in a few days or even a few weeks. If you have printed out materials about healthcare services, this also gives them a chance to read about what the service provides and the benefits.

Better Healthcare Services for quality healthcare

With Better Healthcare Services, you know your loved one is in good hands. Our dedicated care workers provide home and live-in care solutions across the country and understand the benefits quality care can bring. We aim to help people to live the best life they can, regardless of age or disability – whether this is through regular home care visits or live-in care.

To plan your care options with the help of experienced and dedicated professionals, call us today on 0800 668 1234. Alternatively get in touch with your local office.